My fiance and I have a home and we need help with remodeling some of the rooms. I found this website My Dream Home Regisry on HGTV's blog that allows friends to help you with your "big ticket items". Let me know if you all think this would be tacky or trendy to ask for instead of typical registry stuff for my wedding?

Same as asking for cash isn't it.

Tacky. Really tacky.

I looked at the site and the blurb under the wedding part was particularly off-putting to me...

"Getting married? Building a new life with someone? Buying, remodeling or building a new home? By using My Dream Home Registry you can have your wedding guests contribute to you and your new partner’s new life together!"

I would be put off with it too.


Plus they charge 9% !!!

When DD got married last year .. they'd just bought house ( 3 yrs old).. she ( like me) doesn't register.. but a couple of family friends asked if they could help with the house.. so they had a paint party.. and cooked out... it was a fun day...

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bride2be...i'm confused.....on another thread, you mentioned the same sight for gathering money for a downpayment on a house..

Either way....this is a very very very tacky way to either buy your home or furnish your home.....Doing it the old-fashioned way of saving money and struggling thru the hand-me down furnishings is part of the process and it makes for great stories down the road talking about Aunt Matilda's ugly couch that you had to sit on while you slaved away saving money for a new one!!!

Tacky for sure

Tacky with a capital T. I have been getting invited to alot of showers lately neices and nephews getting married and having babies, they all seem to have to many instructions, bring diapers, bring a book, bring a recipe, tell a story. Can't I just bring a present!

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Originally posted by sandypond:
Tacky with a capital T. I have been getting invited to alot of showers lately neices and nephews getting married and having babies, they all seem to have to many instructions, bring diapers, bring a book, bring a recipe, tell a story. Can't I just bring a present!

Sandy, of the options you mentioned, I like tell a story.

I've been to a couple of celebrations (anniversary, birthday, wedding) where they requested a written recollection having to do with the person being honored. I think it's a neat way to present them with a very individualized gift and a way to capture memories.

I don't know...I just got a shower invitation that said "Help buy our sofa! Get an arm or a leg..." I thought it was funny and cute.

I don't have so much a problem with registering but .. if we're going to do this ..let's not pay someone to bank the money for them...

If you're saving for a downpayment .. that 9% can make a difference...

Capital letters: TACKY

Tacky.

Tacky...tacky tacky. One of the girls I work with actual registered on a site to help with the honeymoon. I mean really if you can't afford to get married and have your honeymoon then wait....what is the dang rush...

Unbelieveably TACKY.

Its not tacky or trendy. Its a gift registry, its just not through the usual department store. It sounds like a good idea and it is going toward something that the person can actually use. At least they wont have to worry about returning the gift later or having it be useless to them and collecting dust in the back of a closet somewhere.

queenmb.. it is strictly a banking system... you put $ in .. they keep 9% then let you( the giftee) withdraw it..

If a couple would ( needs) the cash gifts.. I'd make sure they get the full amount.. they'd be better off setting up a savings account...

Someone mentioned gift registries. My mother hates gift registries. Her issue is that people tend to ask for expensive stuff. My cousin had a $300 bedspread on her registry. To me that's tacky. I am single no kids with healthy disposable income and I don't by myself $300 bedspreads.

I don't have a problem w/registering for things you want, I actually like it better when people do this so I can buy them something they really want and not something that they are never going to use. I would never become a member of something that kept a % of it though. I also have a 90% disposable income, no kids, house is paid off, no debt at all etc and I have purchased $500.00 + bedding but I would never put that on a registry I just would never expect anyone to pay that much money for a gift for me ever.

My mom also had a problem with gift registries and it used to irk her if she got an invite and it said "green backs only" on it meaning the couple only wanted money. I think it's a generation thing lol! I know half the stuff friends of mine got for wedding gifts they never used and some of them still have the stuff never opened stored in their attics.

Why not just register at stores where you want things then set up a website w/links to all the places you are registered at? That way you won't be paying a % to anyone. I think people will have a hard time say contributing 100.00 towards a 1,200.00 appliance you may want knowing the gift will be from them and 10 other people it's less personable and people like ther personable aspect. If the things you want are really expensive then just tell people you're not registering because you'd prefer money to buy the big ticket items you want.

Here's something funny... we didn't register anywhere, and everyone gave us money. My husband and I were merging households and really didn't want to set up a registry because we didn't have any household needs. My mother gave us china.

We didn't expect or ask for anything, however, just for people to attend and take part in our special day.

I think it would just be more honest to simply put up one of those old-fashioned money trees, and then the wedding guests could just TIE bloody paper money to the "branches," and it would be less disingenuous.

The whole idea of "wedding gifts" started out as family members and friends helping the (young) couple set up a household, e.g., cooking pans, baskets, linens, sheep, cattle, oxen, chickens and so forth...not showering (pun intended) them with luxury doodads like silver chip-n-dip platters or Osterizer blenders or KitchenAid stand mixers (for people who don't cook). I find the whole sense of "entitlement" by brides and grooms - and their parents - to be seriously off-putting, and showers are horribly irksome; after all, when it comes to showers, either the same people who are already invited to the wedding are invited, and have to cough up a second gift, OR, worse, people who you do not like well enough to invite to the wedding are invited, and THEY have to cough up a gift...even though they are not "A-listers." It's just greed, and it's repugnant.

Just my $.02.

I'd rather have a registry of small items I want (such as pots, towels, linen, toaster) than to receive things I have no use for but I have to find a place to store. It took YEARS for me to finally gracefully rid myself of wedding gifts I had no use for (and some of them I didn't even like). However I would never ask for a donation to my honeymoon/vacation/house-downpayment.

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Strictly, I agree with you. I would rather people spend $10 if that is all they have and get me some dish towels that I need. They feel good, and I am not getting nickel and dime'd to death buying the things I need, but you never seem to have enough to get it all.

I think that a house is a very personal issue, as is the furniture therein, and people should live within their means. Asking people to help with a house or furniture is tacky.

However, most weddings do have a money tree, for those who want to contribute. But to TELL guests WHAT to give, rather than letting them decide what they WANT to give, is in poor taste. I know you are just asking opinions, and not being adament. You are just wanting to know the best option.