Like Muscat, I don't know why I feel compelled to share our loss here, but I do. A couple of hours ago we put down our 10 yr old female German Shepherd. She suddenly developed a bacterial infection in her heart that spread through her lungs and entire body. There was no hope and she was suffering, so we held her, talked to her, and let her go. She was a "daddy's" girl. Good bye sweet girl. Thanks for the joy you brought to our lives these past 10 years. You were one of the best.

So sorry for your loss. I know how your heart breaks when you lose a part of the family. I have lost a part of my heart too many times. You did the right thing. She was a beautiful girl.

Im so sorry for your loss SandraS. It is always hard to let them go. My mother lost her 12 year old teacup poodle last Friday. I don,t need to tell you how she cried, and it broke my heart to see her in pain. My db went on Mothers Day and called a pet store that was just closing. He asked them to wait one hour, because it would take him that long to get there. He had called all day, until he found a little one just like her other one. She has named her Sugar too. DM still cries, but I am glad to see her laugh at her new baby too. They are so sweet we just don,t want to let them go. My pr**ers are with you in this time.

Ts and Ps to you. It is one of the hardest things we have to go through as pet owners. I am sooo sorry for your loss.

Oh, Sandra, what a pretty girl she was. I'm sorry for your loss, too. You can see in the photo she adored the man she's looking at. I know the pain you're in, and I wish you love and blessings.

I am very sorry for your loss. She was a beautiful girl and what devotion she showed in that pic. I know the pain that you are both feeling. Thoughts and P's are going out to you.

Sandra,

I'm over here sobbing like a baby after reading yours & Muscat's posts & looking at your beautiful furbabies pics. Being an over the top dog lover, I feel pain over the loss of ANY dog & can just feel the hurt & pain ya'll are going through. Your precious girl was beautiful! I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I can strongly feel your pain. Sending t's & p's your way. G*od bless you.....

I found this to be a comfort when I loose a beloved pet family member. I hope this does the same for you.

The Rainbow Bridge


By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.

For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears ***** forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.

The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.

hth,

...screamer

I am sorry for your loss. Try to focus on all the good times you were given with her.

I am so sorry for your loss. We're going thru some really sad times here right now, aren't we?

My husband is taking it very hard. He had to be convinced there was no hope and to let her go. I knew we did the right thing for her, but he just couldn't get there. I'm not sure he's there now. Please remember us in your T's & P's.
I come at this with a different perspective. I lost my son 15 years ago, so this doesn't come close to that. But it still hurts and the house is too quiet. I'm doing what needs to be done, crying, but moving through it with acceptance and peace that we did all we could. We came away with a $2000 vet bill and no dog. They don't give money back guarantees. I got an ER bill when my son was killed in a car wreck, even though he was gone when they took him there. It doesn't seem right, but it is what it is.
My husband is feeling guilt, anger, sadness and who knows what all at the same time and is withdrawn and not talking. I keep trying to reassure him that we gave her the ultimate kindness by letting her go sooner rather than later. We were with her. She didn't die alone in a cage. I don't know what else we could have done. I just feel blessed that we were able to do that for her, unlike people who have to suffer before the end.

I'm so sorry for your loss....

Thank you all for your comfort. I came in to work today because I couldn't stay at home. I've done mindless things, but been comforted by my coworkers all day. They've cried with me. But my husband hasn't been as blessed with his male friends. I guess he's supposed to "man up" and realize "it's just a dog" and forget about it. He escaped the empty house and went to play golf with his closest friends. Denial is the rule of the day. My husband is trying to cope, but would it hurt them to just give him a pat on the shoulder and say "sorry man".

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Sorry for your loss. You can really see the love in the eyes as she looks at your DH. I think it is harder for our men to lose a pet as they are not supposed to let things get to them. Well they are human and love is love whether people or pets.

I don't trust anyone who can't love a pet.

Judy

My husband cried until I didn't think he would ever stop last night. It went on for hours. It's his friends that won't allow the show of feelings. Or don't acknowledge the depth of those feelings. I doubt my husband would break down in front of them, but would it kill them to show just a drop of caring for his loss? Makes me want to shake them.

Sandra, I'm so very sorry! I could not even read this thread till today. I dont know what to say except that I truely sympathize, and it this sort of grief is so, so difficult because many people just do know understand that losing a pet can be as painful as losing a human friend. Hang in there, and you and your husband are in my thoughts! There is no shame in loving another living being so fully.

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thank you Muscat. I hope you are making it through. Our dog had endocarditis and there was nothing they could do. She was on IV antibiotics, but was getting worse by the hour.
My husband's friends did tell him they were sorry, everyone but his "best" friend. I called him myself last night to tell him how hard it is, and he chose to completely ignore his pain. That was adding insult to injury.
He's dealing with guilt, passing blame, and wanting it all to be different. The I never, I should have, and on and on. He'll have to work his way through it all in his own time and way. I just wish men had the support that women do.

Dear Sandra: I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved Soko. When I had to put down my Naomi Jean, all I wanted was to have her back. But loving them so much that we let them go so that they won't suffer is a love that cannot be explained. You and your husband did all you could for her, and then some by letting her go. I cried myself sick for weeks...so just let your husband do what he needs and know that it will get easier. I hope that you both will be comforted by the wonderful memories of your dear Soko. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers.

Rev Dani

Thank you so much Rev Dani. My husband's friend did call and actually said he was sorry about our dog, but he couldn't take it if something happened to my DH. Today at golf, my husband was dizzy all day from not eating and they were concerned. So, he called and sort of expressed himself. We're working through it.
Tonight was our first night without her. She always got the pizza crusts. Tonight they went in the trash. Things like that really hit hard. But we'll adjust and heal in time.

Hugs for you and your DH, our fur babies have a way of taking hold of our heart.... T & P for you...Cindy