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In 2 weeks, two friends (who I see often socially) and I will be attending a holiday event. Two months ago since I live 50 miles closer to the ticket locations than them, I offered to pick up the tickets for us all.

Mention has been made twice by one that she will be mailing a check. Another told me in person last week that she thought she had that amount on her that evening.

I have yet to be paid by either. These ladies are wonderful, long-time friends so I am very surprised. It is not the money, but it does not feel good. What would you do/say (hopefully before the day of the event)?

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That can be a touchy subject. Can you ask them to check their checkbooks to see when they paid you since the day doesn't show in your record?

You do need to be paid ahead of the event and your own personal finances can only support others so long before it becomes a hardship.

I hope they recognize the good friendship you all have and are willing to do their part to keep it still good.

Good friends are honest with each other. Email them that you hate to ask but money is tight and you need it now. If they're really good friends they'll be sympathetic and pay up immediately. If not, sell the tickets so you don't get stuck.

You most likely will get the cash in hand by the time of the event. But perhaps you need to tell them that you can't have your money tied up that much longer.

Did you put it on a credit card? When I've done that for friends, I let them know up-front that I don't pay credit card interest. If they do not have the money in my hot little hand by the time the bill gets here, THEY owe me the interest. This has worked through two cruises in 2010 and 2012.

I'm so sorry! Hope it works out for you!

Pam

That is a hard one.I made a special trip to get something and mail it for someone on the boards and even though I have asked I have NEVER been paid,did teach me a lesson though.I know it hurts your feelings.I would give them both reminders and next time(if there is) tell them you need money up front.Good luck,hate to see someone being taken advantage of.

Just ask them in the form of a question..."What day did you mail the money for your ticket because I haven't received it yet? I was worried it might be lost in the mail.

eta: You could also let them know you need to get it in your bank account. This might light a fire underneath them.

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Oh my! I truly appreciate my friends. In 2010 I drove my SUV loaded with four of us and our luggage to Galveston for a cruise... about 650 mile round trip. Even though there were four of us, the other three divided the cost of the gas. This spring, five of us took the same trip in someone else's SUV. We divided cost of the gas four ways. The person driving donated wear and tear and mileage. That is only fair.

DM took trips to a favorite place one-two times a year and asked first one friend and then another to accompany her. One lady she asked only once. DM thought she made it plain, but evidently not...this one lady paid for nothing! They shared a room and DM had to ask her for her portion of the bill. She did pay her own meals, but contributed nothing to gas. Oblivious. A time or two she mentioned how much she enjoyed the trip and would like to go back. Well...she wasn't a good enough friend for DM to foot the bill. I went on one of those trips and had a blast with DM and another of her friends who accompanied her several times. I would "Yes Mama" and "Yes Mom" them. Had the people around us so confused! LOL Just thought...perhaps they thought we were a family and those two women WERE my mothers.

good luck. i'm still waiting for a long, long time working friend to pay her half of flowers we went halfs on. it's only been 30 to 40 years!
mention it to them, it can't hurt!

Just tell them you need the money.
Honesty is the best.

Though not the same outcome, , this thread made me think of the time I drove my Mom, and two aunts, (her sisters), antiquing, which we all loved. At the end of the day, one of my aunts had MORE money in her purse than she left home with after she'd bought several things.

Because??? they would stick a few bills back and forth in each others purses throughout the day. Aunt Frannie broke out laughing all the way home whenever she thought of it!

Indy Anny

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On this selection eve I can't help thinking that this topic reminds me a lot of some of the major differences between the two main parties..........

Lynne, if I was one of those ladies going with you, you can bet you would have had gas money from me. It's just common courtesy.

My son and DIL kept our dogs last week while we were on a cruise. They don't want any money, but they are getting it anyway. They have 3 dogs of their own, and 2 more dogs (even though ours are smaller) is a lot of responsibility (and I know they could use the money as it's time to buy their car tags.)

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Originally posted by Bozie:
On this selection eve I can't help thinking that this topic reminds me a lot of some of the major differences between the two main parties..........

Yes I agree....

Gosh, I can't imagine why someone wouldn't try to pay you immediately. A lot of times we use our debit card to pay for things and it's immediately deducted from our checking account, so it's not like we get a bill for it later. Even if it's not the money you're concerned about, it's the principle that counts. Perhaps they are thinking they will pay you on the way to the event. I think I would mention to them that the money has already been deducted from your account which limits you on cash for gas, etc.

Very interesting reading & yes this can become a delicate matter. Some good suggestions have been offered though. If you need some courage to speak up just think how many fat quarters you could buy with that ticket money.

Going off of Bunny's comment about the money being deducted already so you don't have any for gas, you can always start early enough so you can pull over to the side of the road and tell them that the car isn't going any farther until you get paid--in cash! Then add the gas factor in for pain and suffering.