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YIKES!! She stated that he didn't "understand" about her quilting, wanted more space in the house, & now he wants the garage. Did he not know about her quilting before they got married? It almost makes me feel there should be some kind of intervention. I can maybe see a need to cut back some but not to give up everything. Plus, she's asking nearly full price for everything.

So, I wonder...what would make you give up quilting?

Gina

I can't picture someone making me give up what is good for me in satisfaction. Maybe she is right in keeping her prices high, very few will want to purchase used for full price range so she might be able to tell him that it just won't sell and she can keep it.

It would be a Cold Day in He** when anyone makes me give up anything I enjoy doing. Maybe she needs to give up on him...lol.

HI LADIES
THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN MAKE ME GIVE UP QUILTING IS G--O--D AND I WILL TRY TO DO IT IN HAVEN
I FEEL FOR HER.
HUGS ELY

Yep it will be a cold day when I let mine go.

Doesn't sound like a very good marriage. Seems to me he should be giving up something as well!

Makes you wonder what his hobbies are cars, trucks, guns? They all take up a lot of space and money.

The only things that ever made me "give it up" (temporarily) were health problems or family obligations/family health problems. DH would never dictate what I do with my spare time, spare space, or spare moola! Just as I don't care that he hooks his boat to his truck, grabs a fishing pole, & drives to the nearest lake to clear his head of what happened all week at the office. Where's the respect for each other as a person in that Craigslist household??? "I promise to love, honor, and......" make you get rid of what makes you happy? I don't think so....

Id give up the husband !

Let me think on that.......
I could pretend to give it up but I know a lot of good hiding places for fabric....:

I'm with Starry Sky. Health problems made me stay out of the sewing room for a few months and a terminal diagnosis had me labeling my stash with names of who it should go to. But that's behind me and hubby indulges my addiction, so no, just about no one important to me can or will make me give it up.

I've thought about this and it is a STRONG possibility that if in the future we had to go to Senior Housing and we were confined to 3 rooms, the hobby would have to go. But I'm not going to hold my breath. When it happens, it happens.

Wow! That's just sad. Maybe it's just a story to get people interested her ad? Otherwise I definitely agree...the husband has got to go. With that attitude, she'll be lucky to get anywhere near full price for him!

You hear sad stories all the time about men telling women "Either the cat/dog goes or I go". My advise would be to say bye to him. Same with a man who would want you to choose between him and quilting..

I quit quilting after the death of 1st DH because ...well...I was trying to work and create as normal a house for my son as possible....

Started back when a nephew and his wife were going to have a baby. But I got rid of nothing...just unpacked it and started up anew.

"I" am the only one who decides if and when I give up quilting... health...money...space...loss of desire... Even if I move to a one room shack and the hands and eyes are still willing...a basket with a bit of handwork will stay with me!

If this is true and not a gimic...I feel very sorry for her. Being "unequally yoked" does not apply only to differences in reli*gion.

(This has happens to men to when the wife tells him that either the 1969 Mustang his dad bought for him when he turned 16 goes - or she goes. This is so not right! Being jealous of an innanimate object...grow up!)

Put the husband on Craigslist.

I really feel for her if this is true. I would get rid of him instead. My daughters call their dad my "enabler". He does encourage me a lot and never complains about how much space my sewing "stuff" takes up. This makes me feel so blessed.

I agree put him on Craigs list fast if he is rullinng her life now what is their future??
like the other girls it was for health reason, when I stopped but ty Tisme got back into doing quilting and loving it again she was a great help to me.

... if she puts him on Craigslist it will have to for cheap if she says WHY he's gotta go! No woman in her right mind is going to pay full price for a selfish whiner.
Speaking of having to be a cold day - I'm not sure it could get that cold to make me quit - heck I moved to California to get away from 'cold'!

I had to read the ad a couple of times to make sure I had not misunderstood. Could be she has her prices high to tell this "sweet" man she couldn't sell anything. Or a made up thing to get someone's sympathy. Either way it sure made me think. Still, you aren't gonna get full price for anything you have on CL or in a garage/yard sale.

As long as I can "do it myself" I'm gonna quilt.

Gina

I'm with Nancy20-put HIM on Craigslist! But she wouldn't get much for him if he's that much of a whiner.

If this happens to be a gimmick-hmm somebody is sick in the head. That's so passive-aggressive!

Unless my hands get all crippled up-I'll still sew.

Pam

I think I would have to say, "Last in first out. Sianora Baby"

AJ

This message has been edited. Last edited by: A.J.,

I m very serious, I agree with Nancyv20 and the rest. Put him on Craigs list and get an annulment... Chris

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"Last in first out. Sianora Baby"

snorting!!!

If indeed the ad is legit, he's not a whining pain. He's a control freak and that leads to all kinds of disasters. She'd best get out NOW. Anybody who truly loved her wouldn't even dream of asking, much less "telling", her to give up her quilting and get rid of all her stuff.

I say keep the supplies and get rid of the DH!!!

Show him the door and if he does not take the hint a boot in the rear would help him get threw the door easier.

reminds me of this:

LOST: Husband and sewing machine. Reward offered for sewing machine.

Like so many of you, this is sending off so many alarm bells!!! Why would he expect her to give up her passion and why would she be willing to do it? The fact that she mentioned that he was the one telling her to get rid of it also sets off an alarm bell. She's doing this under duress - but doing it, nonetheless - and wants total strangers to know she is being "mistreated." They both sound nutty. This won't end well.

An eye for an eye---------put an ad on Craigslist selling his tools!

I like the idea of putting "him" on craigs list. I bet he would go for a cheap price.

This is just wrong, but we don't know the whole story either.

I remember a story years ago on a craft site that I belonged to. The lady said her house had burned and she lost all her craft things. Of course many felt very sorry, starting sending supplies and $. It turned out to be a lie.

Wow, makes you wonder how much they talked and got to know each other before the wedding ! I'm with the majority...if there were someone in my life, he'd understand what I enjoy, or not become a part of it!!

If it IS true, then I'm angry at the woman knuckling under to the bully. My ex was happy I had an interest that kept me busy and out of his hair!

If this story is true and not a gimmic to get you to buy her fabrics, I feel dorry for her...there's trouble brewing.

Nothing and no one has the right to tell me to get rid of anything that I enjoy so much - fabric, laces, sewing etc etc.

One of the first things I said to Rob when I met him was "if there's something you don't like about me - my house, my hobbies etc., it's your problem not mine - I'm not changing for anyone" Been there - done that! Lucky for me he enables me to do whatever I want and I support him in his hobbies.

3 things I said no to in 37 years of marriage.

1)Snakes. Before marriage we went to hubb's cousin's house to visit. He showed me his pet snake. A python. His cousin had gone to camp, dumped all his clothes and came home with a suitcase full of snakes. His mom said he could trade them in for one snake. A python. I told Greg if he did that I wouldn't be marrying him. I meant it. I would have marched out in the wedding dress and LEFT.

2)Going through red lights in intersections. In early marriage we lived in a rough part of town becasue it was inexpensive and we were brave. However,there was a game that gangs were playing at night where they were going through red lights at nights without car headlights on,scaring people out of their wits. Hubbs was from a small rural town in Washington and insisted things like that didn't happen. I said,"Look, this is California and these guys are out to kill people"..."Nah" I finally said I wasn't going to drive with him anymore and started taking my car. After a car in front of our house was set on fire and lots of accidents were in the paper and on the news, he finally started locking his car and being more careful.I drive with him now and he's real careful about driving after having lived in California.

3)Chewing tobacco. When he worked as a fire fighter on emergency crews for forest fighters he would come home with cigars (SMOKING at a FIRE???? I never understood that...hey, just breathe the air!) and chewing tobacco. I threw the chewing tobacco away. After the 3rd time I threw it away, he got suspicious and asked about it. Bluntly I said, "ANY time I see that stuff on the dresser I'm throwing it away." Well, being a Scotsman and pinching pennies, he finally gave it up. He could buy it, but I'd throw it. The sight of guys spitting brown juice when they are chewing makes me heave. I'd throw it away today if I saw it.

Otherwise, I say, "Whatever you want, honey." "That sounds good", "Sure". 37 years.

that's why i don't have a husband. no husband no problems LOL

patsy

Didn't she know what he was like before she married him? I thought you would find that stuff out when you were dating.

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Originally posted by nancyc20:

1)Snakes.

When I was involved with elementary school PTA, I was the only mom they could find who would volunteer to help the visiting herpetologist show his snakes at a school assembly. I'd never held a snake before, but I thought, "How bad can it be?" So I volunteered. It wasn't bad...kinda like a warm, dry man's leather belt that could move on its own.

It was interesting to see the reactions of the audience, though. The kids weren't scared, for the most part, and very interested in the snakes. The teachers, however, were TERRIFIED!

So maybe we're not long-lost twins after all, Nancy, since I'm OK with snakes? I don't appreciate them showing up out of nowhere when I'm working in my garden (those dreaded "wild" snakes...), but the pet store kind or the zoo kind aren't so bad.

Snake-y husbands who "make" you put your stuff on Craigslist, tho....

I'm okay with snakes as long as I don't run across them when I'm weeding or checking the pool skimmer basket...most of those are poisonous! But a "pet" snake, or even some of the "gopher/rat" snakes around here, they don't bother me. Of course, when caught un-awares...I might be tempted to "let down a right smart of water."

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"let down a right smart of water."

Is that Texas for pee?

Well ladies, the ad was still there 2 days ago & was restated to "move on with new husband". Maybe she had her fabric stacked from floor to ceiling EVERYWHERE. Still, not gonna get rid of mine!

Gina

NO not me I would not give it up like one of the other ladies said maybe he should give up
something also.

nancy
Yep!

weeelll...I wouldn't put him on CL...
I'd give him leather goods!!!!
A belt in the mouth and a boot in the rear!!

The answer..."NO Way Jos'e" !!!!!!!!!!!!

nuquiltr

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Originally posted by A.J.:
I think I would have to say, "Last in first out. Sianora Baby"

AJ

ditto...but then again...I doubt he woulda' ever made it over my threshold...my motto is..."love me or leave me" and by loving me, you accept everything about me ya don't have to like it, but to tell me it has to go...bwahhhahaha!!!! <<<< wicked laugh as I'm watching you leave mister, goodbye, good riddings!
Now...where was I at...oh yeah, just about to make a Bonnie Hunter shirt tails quilt hehe

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weeelll...I wouldn't put him on CL...
I'd give him leather goods!!!!
A belt in the mouth and a boot in the rear!!

oh I think my heart is in Texas...

Anyone make me give up quilting? I don't think so.

I like the idea of putting him on CL AFTER the leather goods treatment.

My DH doesn't always understand my quilting, but then I don't "get" standing around in a forest looking for a particular bird either. He doesn't "get" my addiction to sports (I'm an ESPN junkie), and I don't "get" why we need different binoculars for bird watching and star gazing.

So what? We have plenty in common, and we support each other's habits. That's a relatively mature relationship.

I don't think this man can even spell mature, much less define it as it relates to any human being. I hear "major control freak" in this marriage. I hope she gets out quickly.

He's a poor excuse of a man to make her quit doing something she loves! I'd get an annullment and tell him that he's not stealing my soul! That pissses me off! If he wants a garage, then he can build one out back somewhere! Quilting may have been the only sane thing the woman does!

BIL was fussing about money SIL was spending on quilting - and it's waaaay less than me I guarantee! (We won't address his tools and toys and tractor with an air conditioner on it...) (BTW, her sewing area is in the shop - no a/c!!!) (But I said we wouldn't address that issue.)

Anyway, I told him look at the money she was saving him. He gave me a weird look.

You haven't had to go bail her out of jail for soliciting or shop lifting or...

SIL jingled her keys at me, we both turned and walked out the door.

I'd really like to read this ad.

Quiltmaker

" I don't think so!" Sounds like he needs a hobby.