DH refused to even consider it and now claims (in looking at above photos,) that he never even entered this house, which makes it even worse!
I am so pleased to see that the figure at the end of the staircase remains. This has an artists studio and a two car garage + three bathrooms! All of which (well DH has a small studio) this house lacks.
This is almost as bad as his refusal to buy our Cobble Hill house for 16k (that one had 3 rentals!)
Sometimes when I think how much better off **$ we would be if only I had been driving our ship, instead of him, I get really annoyed.This message has been edited. Last edited by: lady of shallot,
I hear ya, LOS. My dear mother, about to hit 94 yrs. old, STILL laments to the fact my dad didn't buy the house she REALLY wanted back in the early 50s for a fraction of what it would cost today. We've driven by it countless times over the decades. She remembers every detail of it's amenities to the letter. I try to advise her to let it go, but alas, it's a bitter pill to swallow. Dad didn't think he could afford the mortgage, but I guess mom thought otherwise. It's really sad.
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IF you could talk to the current owners and see how much they actually spent keeping that house up and all the repairs it took (plus taxes, etc) to make that house what it is today. Plus what it costs to live in a larger city.
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Froo, 50 yrs ago inlaws bought their house for 8,000. It was NOT the one mil wanted, but fil ruled the roost. To this day she still talks about the house she wanted. It was 15,000. Fil wouldn't even consider it. Their house is in the ghetto now, worth next to nothing. Mil's choice is in a very nice, middle class neighborhood that has done nothing but appreciate over the years. She has never forgiven him for that, lol!
Oh, don't even go there, Lady of Shallot. That thinking is the straight path to misery. 45 years ago 10,000 wasn't what 10,000 is now.
Just think what you might be saying if you hadn't bought the beautiful home you have now. That could have been a coulda shoulda woulda, but it isn't. You got that one!
OUCH! I understand why you're annoyed. Since your husband is 0-for-2, perhaps you ought to pitch a bigger fit when his decisions goes against your better judgement?
It's a beautiful place, but DH and I always say that things happen for a reason. Maybe you wouldn't have been happy in that house. Maybe now the upkeep and taxes are skyhigh. You never know what has happened in or to that house the last 45 years.
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It is great to take a minute to vent on this forum, then put it out of your mind, never mention it to your DH. Your relationship is more important than a house.
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then put it out of your mind, never mention it to your DH.
Too late! LOL. I haven't been thinking of this house for the past 45 years, it is just that my schedule now takes me past it several times a week and of course I have seen the for sale sign.
Back in the dark ages when I was young, men ruled. Not of course that there were not women who were dominant on a personal level but legally and as a social norm men ruled.
So Janetaz and Froo are quite right in the fact that their mothers did not have equal input.
Of course you realize that this doesn't stop at just a house selection? It is where you live, the size of your family, how often (and whom) you entertain, where and what you do on vacation where you eat and what you see at the movies.
We are friends with a couple who are the flip side of us and boy does my DH think that husband is hen pecked!
I tell DH that he got to be boss for the first 50 years and now I will be boss for the next 50!
Since the house is on the market again, it's never too late, perchance???? lol
Many relationships are comprised of "a saver" + "a spender," which is always a source of tension. I'm married to a banker, and oh boy does he hate to spend money! I, on the other hand, am a dreamer/planner and am always looking for the next item to spend money on. Honestly, I think we balance each other out. I keep him from living an extremely frugal (ie boring) life, and he keeps me from going to the poorhouse. lol It all works out. I live close to neighborhoods which are extremely affluent, and sometimes when I drive by these gorgeous houses, I wonder how really happy the people are who are living in them are. I seriously doubt that most are happier than I am. We are living in a house which is much nicer than our previous home, but to be honest, although I do love it, I can't say that I am really a lot happier. I believe happiness comes in one's approach to life and relationships. (JMHO)
Having said all of that, LOS, I DO understand exactly how you feel.
Oh, yes that ship has sailed! We could not afford the asking price even if we were much younger.
Since DH is an artist you will find it easy to believe that I am the frugal one and he the spendthrift. However that has balanced out, or rather we have found a way to accommodate both styles of spending/saving.
Originally posted by zone9alady: It's a beautiful place, but DH and I always say that things happen for a reason. Maybe you wouldn't have been happy in that house. Maybe now the upkeep and taxes are skyhigh. You never know what has happened in or to that house the last 45 years.
It's true, i keep hoping, thinking i bought this house, and live far away from the metropolis for a reason. Many days i regret and have to keep remembering, it happened for a reason.
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